Thursday, February 24, 2011

Piecing the Puzzle Together

I should have seen this sooner.

Transitions with her brothers are VERY hard for Triple A.

As soon as the boys get off the bus, she goes into hyper-vigilant controlling mode.

Which always results in the quote:  'I need snack.'

Big A is not much different.  Transitions continue to be challenging for him.  He likes routine, predictability, and reassurance of what is to come.

I have known for years that transitions and change are tough.

It amazes me how many times, I put the pieces of our puzzling children together.  I seem to do the same puzzles over and over again.

I like to think that with each child, I am presented the opportunity to grow.


Number 3 is presenting LOTS AND LOTS of opportunities for me to become a better person and hopefully a better parent - but that story is for another time.

For now, I want to remind myself how much Alexa needs me when the boys come home.

Today, Alexa and I rocked for about 30 minutes and this cuddle time seemed to help distract her from her trance of fear based control.

I hope I remember this one!  In an effort to remind my poor OLD brain, I hope to post many reminders of what seems to help our attachment challenged child.


24)   MVO coming home early
25)   The growing ability to stay quiet in the car
26)   Easy Cheese - Yeah, I eat the junk
27)   The end of swim team practice
28)   Great adoption/attachment books