Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Attachment Tuesday

Another article because I have yet to write my own thoughts on living with an Attachment Challenged child.

The most valuable part of this article, to me, is the explanation of the the Core Belief system.  Lexa lives with a ticker tape of thoughts going through her head of:
  • Mom will leave me.
  • I am bad.
  • No one like me.
  • I am worthless.
  • I am a bad bad girl.
  • Mom is bad.
  • Mom is my enemy
  • Mom will leave me.
  • I am a really bad girl (that is why my birth parents left me).
This ticker tape of beliefs creates a child that 'acts' really bad, in her mind, to protect herself against further pain. All the while, creating the pain she hopes to avoid, and missing out on the love being offered to her.